As per
most days, this morning I travelled on three crowded trains to complete
my one hour twenty minute commute to work in central Tokyo
. I stood next to men on consecutive trains who glared at people who
brushed up against them, complained when people bumped into them and
looked generally miserable. The trains are very crowded, so getting
bumped into is pretty much a given. Sometimes it pisses you off, but
what can you do? Well, you can basically do one of two things:
1) Let it piss you off.
2) Ignore it.
I
used to let it piss me off, but what's the point? If it really becomes
intolerable then the only thing left to do is get a new job which
doesn't require commuting by train. Today I just took it in my stride,
tried to keep smiling and enjoyed reading about England beating France in the Six Nations.
Smiling
definitely makes you feel better. I woke up this morning with my nose
bunged up because of hay fever and feeling drowsy because I hadn't
slept very well (again due to hay fever). As I opened my eyes, however,
I was greeted by the smiling face of my eight-month-old son, who then
reached over and touched my face. Naturally, this made me smile and
made me feel instantly better. I decided right then to maintain that
smile throughout the day.
And
so it was that one hour later I was on a train standing next to a
scowling man who tutted every time anybody did anything that he found
remotely annoying: accidentally brush his arm when putting a bag on the
luggage rack – glare; check your mobile phone – tut and glare; stand
anywhere near him – glare. It seemed that he was actively seeking
things to complain about and going out of his way to start an argument.
When we changed trains, he barged his way past people, glaring as he
went. On the next train, another man was doing similar things and
muttering under his breath about how 'rude' people are. The fact that
he was taking up loads of space with his newspaper opened out didn't
seem to register…
Both of these people will probably be irritated all day – they perhaps are every day.
Today
I ignored the little petty annoyances and smiled. I have a lot to smile
about. I've got a wonderful family, a nice house, a new car and my
health. I may not love my job, but at least I've got one. The train
didn't crash. It didn't blow up. There wasn't an earthquake. Or a
flood.
I've decided that every day should start with a smile and that one should smile throughout the day. Try it – you'll feel better.
And when I get in bed tonight, I hope to fall asleep with a smile on my face (and not just because tomorrow is a holiday).